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Do not judge by looks alone

A dating tip to live by.

Yes the girl I am with in the photo is beautiful.   But I if I suddenly swooned over her and said “I love you” I would be making a huge mistake that would only leave me humiliated and embarrassed. Here’s why.

 

Like most men, I have often fallen all over myself in the premature pursuit of a woman just because of how she looks. This was not smart for two reasons:

-I wound up chasing a fantasy born of an idealized image of what her personality must be like without taking the time to determine if mine was compatible with hers.

-My “va-voom” reaction to her looks made me ignore all the signs that she was not interested in me from the get-go.

Such lopsided pursuits never end well.

"Ain't she an angel?" we sigh when we see a pretty girl. Well, the response to that is "Not so fast, bub." Because if a man judges a woman on her looks alone, thinks she's heavenly ... and then discovers that, say, she has a shallow, petty personality, he has gotten himself in a jam.

The same logic applies in reverse when it comes to us single guys, girls, especially since men are known to be even more shallow and petty than women. Don't judge a guy by how handsome he is, or, worse, how much money he has in the bank. If he doesn't have good qualities, or claims he has them but soon tips his hand that he does not which in turn reveals he is a hopeless liar, get away from the dude!

So the next time you meet someone single who is attractive, approach with confidence but also caution. Your emotional health will thank you by not judging a book by its cover and paying a steep price when you discover that beneath it is not what you expected at all.

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